From the CRC Network a link and presentation from Fuller seminary on Forgiveness and Making Amends. 

Good stuff in this video.

Around minute 17 he gets into rebuke. A good rebuke is not an attack, but giving information. ” 1. You did this. 2. This is how it hurt me. 3. It is not OK. ”

(23:00) This is part of the process of learning how to love our enemies.

The way you make amends is like the rebuke: “I did this. I can see that it hurt you and its not OK with me either.”

Also on that page is a link to a very good interview with David Augsburg.

Also from Bill Harris, people are not always selfish, they’re group-ish. NYT: Forget the money, follow the sacred.