Third hand here via the excellent blog “Grateful To the Dead”
And a summary of the ten myths exposed by Ken:
Stewart discusses, with ample evidence and thorough explanations, four myths Calvinists should not be circulating (but are):
1. One Man (Calvin) and one City (Geneva) are determinative
2. Calvin’s view of (double) predestination must be ours
3. TULIP is the yardstick of the truly Reformed
4. Calvinists take a dim view of revival and awakeningAnd six myths non-Calvinists should not be circulating (but are):
1. Calvinism is largely antimissionary
2. Calvinism promotes antinomianism
3. Calvinism leads to theocracy
4. Calvinism undermines the creative arts
5. Calvinism resists gender equality
6. Calvinism has fostered racial inequality.
Leadingchurch.com 
Given the complicity of the Reformed in S Africa and the American South, I would think that the charge of racial into lance has at least some plausible warrant. This has be en a struggle for Anthony Bradley in the PCA, I know.
Wesley’s major critique of Calvinism was the antinomian charge. One might argue in practice that this has rarely been a problem in Calvinist circles, but if your goal (via the Wesleyan tradition) is Christian perfection (i.e. perfect love of God and neighbor), then it is easy to see how something like the Perseverance of the Saints could lead one to go reach the full heights of God-intended holiness. That said, I have found Calvin more palatable through the lens of Barth, but I am not sure how popular he is with mainstream Calvinists in the US.