When it came to “yes” or “no” about sex there used to be a simple rule. That rule was not easy to live by. Many found themselves breaking that rule, but that rule provided orientation in a very murky world. The rule was based on something that was not predominantly “feeling” oriented. It was objective. It was public. It was communal. It was religious. It spanned nearly all the layers of reality. The rule wasn’t itself life. The rule was dangerous because it was powerful. Many suffered because of the rule. But the rule provided orientation in a space that where there are many layers and many motivations and many consequences and many ways to do things that we regret. So what happens when the rule is gone?